Updated: Jul 22
Just in case you don’t know or are a bit confused, a trans woman is a woman who was born a male. Some are fully transitioned (they have had surgery to fully become a female), some are still going through the process. A transgender woman is different from a transvestite. A transvestite is one who just wear clothes of the non-birth assigned gender. Regardless, women of any type deserve respect and love.
The “DON’S” for Dating a Trans Woman:
Don’t use the word tranny. This is derogatory.
Don’t call them a Drag Queen. This is a derogatory term for someone who wears the opposite genders clothes, not truly identifies and wants to or had become the gender they associate with. Calling them a drag queen will likely get you blocked.
Don’t hide her away like you are embarrassed. Show her to the world like you are proud of her! Although, this likely applies to any straight or trans person.
Don’t be stereotypical
Don’t expect her to be easy or try to get her to bed the first night. Especially if you both have been drinking.
Don’t ask her transition status in public or any other awkward questions.
Don’t assume she transitioned to trick a straight man into sleeping with her. As a cute little kid on a favorite old show used to say… “How Rude!” (Think Michelle from Full House)
The “Do’s” for Dating a Trans Woman
Do talk about sex before it happens. Find out what she likes, what she is comfortable with, and what is okay.
Do be supportive, especially if she is transitioning.
Have appropriate conversations in appropriate places.
Treat her with respect.
If you treat her with respect and dignity on a first transgender date you will have the foundation for something beautiful. If it doesn’t work in the romance department for whatever reason, there could still be a great friendship.